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Emily, there is no way that you can convince your Mom to accept outside help.
My own Mom was that way. I tried the caregiving route per my Mom's doctor's request. No way, no how would my Mom allow anyone to be in her house, especially in her kitchen. The first night, the caregiver prepared a meal for my parents and when the caregiver served Dad his bowl, my Mom grabbed the bowl from my Dad and dumped it in the trash. Oh dear, we have a problem in the room. The caregivers were fired on day 3.
What I had to do was what many grown children had to do, wait for an emergency. Like a serious fall or serious illness, call 911, Mom goes to the hospital, then to Rehab, then into Assisted Living if she can budget for the cost, or go into a skilled nursing home.
Because my Mom was so darn stubborn, she wound up in long-term-care after a fall that had a serious head trauma. No way could she now live at home. If only she would have accepted the caregivers. This was Mom's second serious fall, both times she was in the kitchen making lunch.
By the time our parents reach (really) old age, they have a whole big history and lots and lots of baggage, medical and mental. Like ff, my mom sure did. She lived to be 95. She had so many delusions, phobias and just downright strange behaviors I gave up trying to figure them out. Some of them, like her abject fear of men, I didn’t WANT to know the reasons behind. I did, however, put my foot down on occasion with my Mom. Her subject du jour was usually sex. Once when I’d had enough, I looked straight at her and said, “Mom, be a lady! Ladies don’t say things like that!” She toned it down after that but it never completely went away.
Like frequentflyer says there is no way you’re going to change Mom now. What she is, she will stay. Unless she is in a facility, supervised by a medical staff, she won’t take her meds and will continue to be, as you say, “hateful”. I’m afraid anyone you hire will probably quit, and if there are family members who are charged with caregiving for her, she will alienate them. It might be time to rethink caring for her at home.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My own Mom was that way. I tried the caregiving route per my Mom's doctor's request. No way, no how would my Mom allow anyone to be in her house, especially in her kitchen. The first night, the caregiver prepared a meal for my parents and when the caregiver served Dad his bowl, my Mom grabbed the bowl from my Dad and dumped it in the trash. Oh dear, we have a problem in the room. The caregivers were fired on day 3.
What I had to do was what many grown children had to do, wait for an emergency. Like a serious fall or serious illness, call 911, Mom goes to the hospital, then to Rehab, then into Assisted Living if she can budget for the cost, or go into a skilled nursing home.
Because my Mom was so darn stubborn, she wound up in long-term-care after a fall that had a serious head trauma. No way could she now live at home. If only she would have accepted the caregivers. This was Mom's second serious fall, both times she was in the kitchen making lunch.
Like frequentflyer says there is no way you’re going to change Mom now. What she is, she will stay. Unless she is in a facility, supervised by a medical staff, she won’t take her meds and will continue to be, as you say, “hateful”. I’m afraid anyone you hire will probably quit, and if there are family members who are charged with caregiving for her, she will alienate them. It might be time to rethink caring for her at home.