Follow
Share

I am her and my 67 yr old disabled brothers caregiver. She got released she called a lawyer and filed a dvpo against me. I was removed from the home. Not allowed back in home till court date in two weeks. Unless I hire a lawyer there don't seem to be anything I can do. She controls all money. What can I do, who can I talk too?

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
You walk away and leave them alone and make no contact, for your own protection. You need a lawyer immediately to defend yourself against the Domestic Violence Protection Order (DVPO). If you have no money you get a public defender. Never go to court for charges this serious without good counsel.
Helpful Answer (10)
Report

cooter if you have a dvpo, you will not get the Baker Act results. No contact means you are cut off from everything. You cannot go back for the cats unless the police accompany you. They will only take you back there once, one trip to get your stuff, your cats and then no more.
Helpful Answer (3)
Report

Still have not been given access to her baker acted results. Don't know how to get them. Yes, sheriffs know she shows signs of dementia. Apparently they must feel she is competent.DCF has been called to the home twice because of her slapping around my brother. They said all they can do is warn her. She laughed at that. This is Elder Abuse in reverse. I hate to think that Nothing will be solved unless someone is very seriously hurt.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Cooter, your brother would be better off in a nursing home.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Cooter, things are things. What you have now is the clear knowledge that your mother is mentally ill and that nothing you can do will change it. Without you to blame, her inability to care for herself and your brother will become clear and your brother will be removed. You can visit him. Don't look back at the rest of the mess.

If you find yourself living in a place where no pets are allowed, find a shelter to volunteer at or get a part time job there. Take care of yourself.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

BTW, I just figured out what "expate" is..."ExParte Petition for Involuntary Examination", aka Baker Act in FL .
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Yay for the cats. No so hot for your brother. Don't break the law, but if you have anyone who can keep an eye on things and get back to you, be ready to call Adult Protective services again for his sake, if you have any credible evidence his care is not good.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

In your shoes I would work on getting your brother out, to a group living situation. It's one of your mom's many lies and distortions that he'd be worse off someplace else.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

I am no longer allowed at the house, If I go, just to see my brother, she will have me arrested on trespassing charges. I had cameras in the house, did the recordings for proof of neglect, but was NOT allowed to use them in court. Judge said they were here say. Where it stands now, the Only way I'll get to see my brother is if I get a call from the sheriffs that something happened to him. I told you her cruelty was bad. It's what it is and I'm not going back there ever again. Like I said, Adult Services and the sheriffs stated, unless something terrible happens, They will Not get involved. Don't you just love the way the system works?
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

A broken system.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

See All Answers
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter