Devastated! I quit a well paying job 4 1/2 years ago to be the caregiver for my mom. I did not want to put her in a nursing home. She has had 2 strokes. The 2nd stroke which was 4 1/2 years ago effected the area of her brain for thought process and what she says. While in the hospital 12-10-13 my sister asked "Mom how are you feeling"? My mom says not good. She said I threw her out of bed,,,broke her wooden leg (which she does not have) and beat her. The nurse was in the doorway getting her medications ready. I heard the nurse say my license is attached to that. I advised her 4 years ago my Mom said the same thing and it was to be documented on her chart. I thought nothing more of it. 3 days later I was advised Adult Protective Services was called but to not worry everything was ok. The lady came to the house and of course all things were fine regarding my mom and the care I give her. What is not fine is this will stay with Adult Protective Services for six months regardless of being innocent or guilty. My moms primary care physician even said 4 1/2 yrs ago if your mom knew what she was saying she would be mortified. I am devastated beyond belief that the hospital called them when all the drs there and nurses said how lucky my mom is to have me as her caregiver. I gave up everything 4 1/2 years ago and I do not have any income whatsoever. My reward is still having my mom around and knowing the care I give her is better than any nursing home or assisted living facility could. There are visisiting nurses,,,physical therapy, and occupational therapy coming to the house 3 days a week. They said how well I do with my mom. I know its the hospital getting back at me because I am very very proactive in my mothers care and I will not let anything happen to her. Someone please please help me on what I can do about this false accusation. As I say I am devastated and this happened 2 1/2 months ago. My mother was interviewed and told them how well I take care of her and what were they doing. It makes me sick to my stomach now as I type this out thinking about APS being called on me. Thank You for letting me vent!
Joanie
I guess my culture (Canadian) has less resistance to the idea of government as a good source of organization, a bully pulpit to educate people and use income we agree to send to provide services that cross different lines.
But I see the gap and refusal to listen to new information and evaluate it locally as rampant across the culture, and it makes all of us frustrated and feel powerless and treated as unimportant. I don't see the issue as related to government, except that they, like the rest of us, are becoming paralised by a culture of professionalism that relies less and less on common sense, and more and more on computerized lists of rules and rights and written guidelines, sometimes related to expenses, others to expectations - always long lists. I see similar issues in hospitals, and even many large companies like banks or the phone company.
To me this is a crisis of management and supervision, for working out the best ways to do that role is taken for granted or skipped. Instead of training supervisors to be middle people between top management and people on site, like family caregivers - people supervising or administering care or services are working within separate silos that never learn from other organizations, and only take in new information when directed from above, and they then they do a survey, for they have no idea how to evaluate insight or information as it comes in from real life and people.
involved.
If this overwhelm by mechanical and numerical forms of organization is what conservatives are referring to when they complain about big government, we are actually furious at the same thing!
The complaint was made by my neighbors who really had no idea what was going on, so they called the authorities. Before he left he showed me the report he was going to file, and I signed it. He also said it would stay 'open' for about 6mos. He was also very clear that I had nothing to worry about and he made this type of 'cold call' several times per mo and most of them turned out just like mine.
It sounds like most of the people who know you and your mom think you are doing a good job. Believe them and what you already know to be true. You are doing one of the hardest jobs imaginable and doing it as well as you can. To my way of thinking if you weren't you wouldn't be worried.
I will be praying for you and your situation.
Beakfast and then at3 oclock for luck and 9oclock for supper.is that okay for her to do that. Pami
As to the original question, Joanie, please post a follow-up so we know how you're doing. Hope it has all blown over by now!