My mom is 81 and when she does not sleep good the night before she is hateful and thinks everyone is against her and cries a lot, Then later on she will act like nothing happened and starts up a normal conversation. She seems to be happier when I take her shopping..Anyone else going through this?
You're no longer a child - you're a grown adult woman with a family of your own. They come first - NOT your mom! Your mom's not the queen bee - treat her like another responsible adult in the family and maybe she'll start to act that way. If not, then find her other accommodations or let her stew in her own juice.
Your husband and your children should be your first priority, NOT your mom. Sorry to get so riled up, but I see this in so many threads - narcissistic moms who rule the whole family with their bad behavior. It's just not right!!
I agree with just those who say to step away from the situation (if you can, I don't know your whole situation) and let her be until she is ready to play nice.
If I keep my mom busy and limit her napping during the day, she sleeps more soundly at night...she tends to nap for long periods during the day and is inactive on her own which translates into her being up all night and ornery during the day.
I try to make sure she gets outside, is mentally stimulated, shopping, playing cards or just short but frequent walks during the day around the neighborhood, around the yard, going to mailbox, etc.
Evenings I try to keep her up and maybe have a small glass of wine (she likes) an hour or so before bedtime.
Dr may offer a sleep aid, or you could try zzz-Quil, but these can be dangerous if they are too sleepy or disoriented if they have to get up at night to go to bathroom so beware.
you might give her a melatonin supplement before bedtime which isn't harmful and helps them sleep without drugging.
Also, routine is extremely important thru the day as well as good nutrition and limiting caffeine after lunch.
Hope this helps. Also consider a full physical and mental health work up by a geriatric doctor to rule out any underlying mental and physical issues like UTI, dementia, etc that can make her crazy and irrational.
Why are you so shocked? I am pretty crazy myself when Ive had no sleep and totally mad when ive no coffee! x