My sister lives out of town and my brother lives out of the country. When they come home for a visit, mom gives them the "star" treatment just as she would a guest. When it is just my parents and me, they watch a lot of tv and I usually have to wait for a commercial to say something. I am in graduate school and they really don't ask much about it ( I am part time so I only have 2 classes.). I think it is not very fun around my house. (I am not the most fun person and I lead a quiet life which I prefer. ) so they probably "perk up" a bit when my siblings come home, especially my brother who has a 1 year old. I guess I can understand that but it feels awful. Anybody out there experience the same thing?
When my sister would come visit from CA which is 3,000 miles away; she was considered the "glamour girl" and she even said those words to me. While I was the one who always cared for our parents and loved them unconditionally. I will leave my blessed father out of this as he was my best friend and always made me feel special not matter who was visiting.
While the novelty of a visit from a child who lives a distance away is uplifting; you should be made to feel special every day since you live with them. My mother was never interested when I was going to college and even commented "what are you doing that for" - so "I get it". Try not to let it get you down; they are aging and obviously getting set in their ways - this is not an excuse; just an observation. I have three daughters and they are the light of my life. All in their twenties and two living at home. I always make a point to make them all feel special; that is just me. I think I do especially not to perpetuate what I was exposed to with my own mother.
It's not intentional on their part; just and oversight is what it appears to be. Doesn't make it right; but I do agree with your plans to immerse yourself in your studies next time they visit. That is an important aspect of your life right now and it is a great opportunity to show it; and I give you praise; graduate school is no easy task. Wishing you much success!!!! Take care.