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There are 3 children that visit at minimum every other day. And she is so unhappy, she will not try to meet other residents. What can I do? Am I visiting too much or not enough?
This is obviously a very sad and confusing time for your mom. How long has it been since stepdads death? Does the AL have a grief support group? Can you attend some of the mtgs with her at least the first few times til she gets comfortable or connects with someone?
Maybe speak with director and see if there are other widows that might be willing to befriend your mom and help her thru this or offer companionship and friendship. Your mom might be isolating herself. Maybe you could organize a small group coffee and dessert at the facility, they should be able to accommodate you in a small room privately, where you can get these people together informally a few times, with you there to facilitate --kind of a "meet & greet".
Is there a hobby she enjoys? Can you lead a small group for a book club, music, craft? Keep it simple, short book, poem.
Also, your local church may have clergy or grief counselor that would be willing to come in once a week for awhile and talk to her and help her thru her loneliness .
Just some suggestions. It's so hard to get them engaged, especially if they are depressed (a dr might be able to prescribe something to lift her spirits) but any drug therapy should be coupled with outside stimulation and social networking so she doesn't sit around isolated.
if your mother hasnt nurtured friendships for the last 60 years i dont think you should feel guilty if she feels lonely at this point. it sounds like your family is putting a lot of effort into keeping her company. shes fortunate. in the three months my mom was in AL i saw da*n few people visiting other elders in the home.
Honestly, of course your Mom is lonely.. she is uprooted from all that she's known...
My Mom has dementia, too, and now lives in a NH. I see her at least 5 times a week.. feeding her... holding her hand... hugging her.. speaking with her... This gives her noticeable comfort to know she is not forgotten or abandoned...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Maybe speak with director and see if there are other widows that might be willing to befriend your mom and help her thru this or offer companionship and friendship. Your mom might be isolating herself. Maybe you could organize a small group coffee and dessert at the facility, they should be able to accommodate you in a small room privately, where you can get these people together informally a few times, with you there to facilitate --kind of a "meet & greet".
Is there a hobby she enjoys? Can you lead a small group for a book club, music, craft? Keep it simple, short book, poem.
Also, your local church may have clergy or grief counselor that would be willing to come in once a week for awhile and talk to her and help her thru her loneliness .
Just some suggestions. It's so hard to get them engaged, especially if they are depressed (a dr might be able to prescribe something to lift her spirits) but any drug therapy should be coupled with outside stimulation and social networking so she doesn't sit around isolated.
Good lick.
My Mom has dementia, too, and now lives in a NH. I see her at least 5 times a week.. feeding her... holding her hand... hugging her.. speaking with her... This gives her noticeable comfort to know she is not forgotten or abandoned...