I have gotten her flavored water and also coconut water. I have posted signs to remind her to drink. We have of course gone to the Dr and even seen a urologist. He suggested meds she could not tolerate and estrogen cream. She is 86 and has dementia. She could not figure out what to do with the estrogen cream even after I explained 3 times. I have gotten her depends and chux for her bed. I think she is fixated on NOT being incontinent, she has NO ability to hold her urine now. I have talked to her about cross contamination with feces and wearing cotton panties, what else can I do???
Good luck
.. I don't know how the doctor prescribed the cream, but we simply have to spread it around the labia, not insert it
..There's a long handled wiper holder that might encourage her to wipe in the proper directions. Alternatively (or additionally) there's hand-held "bidet" to wash the areas, rather than wipe (then blot dry).
..When she urinates, be sure to remove the pad as quickly as possible. The longer it lingers, the more chance of leaky feces transfering in the pad
.. Encourage her to drink early in the day, and stop several hours before bedtime so that she doesn't hold the urine overnight
.. When she's on the potty, can she stop and start her stream? It's a modified version of kegels that helps to retrain the bladder
.. You might consider cranberry tablets with a higher content of cranberry
.. Probiotics might help as well
.. Try to find some beverages, sweetened with truvia or other more natural low sugar substitutes that she likes (getting our elders to drink is a serious problem, I've found .. and when I find something they like, I push it, lol)
Good luck and let us know how it goes!