She's just out of her wrist cast from her last fall. I found her today hanging on to the hallway handrail without her walker, about 30 normal paces from her room. She just left the walker in her room. Of course she is going to fall again and has very fragile bones. Any ideas on how to get her to remember her walker? She is in an ALF.
Mainly, though, I'm sorry to say, it will probably just help you know you've tried. Manage your expectations, won't you :)
Kind of makes me wish there was an Angie's List for those kinds of facilities.
Some place they can't pay for positive reviews.
I tried to use A Place for Mom, but once the lady found out we weren't looking for a luxury condo at $6-10K/month, I couldn't get a return phone call.
I have to comment about losing the ability to walk once they use the wheelchair... According to all the advice I've heard my mom should be totally bedbound by now from atrophied muscles because she is in bed 20 or more hours a day, but she isn't. I have kept her 2 wheel walker and we use it almost exclusively to get around within the house with me right there supporting and guiding her. There are days when she says she can't, but at my insistence we get up and go anyway, so far so good!
One really cute lady had hers decorated with a MN Vikings car flag on a small pole, purple & yellow beads, and a purple & yellow fleece blanket. She was awesome. You could see her coming over the crowd with that flag waving up high.
I know with my mom, once she got in a wheelchair she wouldn't even try to get up and move her legs. DVT anyone? The woman had already had blood clots and strokes. She could stand up. She could bear weight. She could bloody well walk, but the wheelchair was just so comfortable.
Mom had no inner desire to try anymore, so that was that. She stopped walking and then couldn't. This was just her personality normally.
She stopped going to PT and lost the ability to move her legs and bear weight.
She refused to try to stand up, and then wasn't able to if she wanted to.
At this point, she can't even scoot herself up in the bed or change positions. Her legs have atrophied and the muscle has wasted away.
Was the wheelchair 100% behind this degeneration? No, but it did not help her work on keeping mobility when that was still possible. It helped her get comfortable and have no reason to get up anymore.
That's a hole nobody can dig out of.
I really don't understand why this solution is suggested more often!
My Dad has one of the rolling walkers, my gosh you'd think I had bought him a Shelby Mustang he was so happy with this thing.... he quickly learned how to use it, as I know the hand brakes does take coordination. And there was the problem of my Mom not wanting "that thing" inside the house so Dad kept it in the garage to use when he walked down the driveway to get the mail, the basket under the seat was handy to carry the mail back up to the house.
My Mom tried the rolling walker but she couldn't figure it out... reminded me back when my Mom tried to learn to ride my 3-speed bicycle with hand brakes, oops.
Dad's caregivers at home make sure he won't get out of his recliner without that walker being right in front of him. It helps him get up. But then again, he still has upper body strength that many of us women do not have.
As for rollators, I used to think they were the greatest thing ever invented and couldn't understand why anyone would use an old style walker, until I tried to get my mom to use a rollator that is. It takes coordination and hand strength and to operate the brakes, as well as the mental capacity to understand. They are also usually harder to manoeuver in tight spaces like small bathrooms and between furniture. I still think they are great for more active seniors.
We got the black insulating foam used on pipes. It's circular, open on one side to wrap around pipes to insulate them from cold. Dad wrapped it around the legs and arms of the walker; although because of some of the welds, it can't completely cover the walker's limbs, but it does provide padding.
Eventually he stopped using it except for a few occasions, especially after we got a rollator which is far more stable, IF someone learns how to use the brakes and does so properly.
Personally, I'm not very impressed with walkers as I think they're flimsy and don't provide much stabilization. If I ever have to use one, I'm going to make an x brace to put below the top rung and the area above the knees to provide extra stability.
Rollators are a different story, but they have to be used properly.
Sophie, perhaps you can try a rollator; we got ours at a DME supplier and it was paid for entirely by Medicare. Dad tried his out to see how he liked it. Your mom could do that as well.
Rollators do have to be adjusted by height, just as walkers do. If they're not, they're not that helpful, especially if they cause someone to lean over as he/she moves inside the walker envelope.
"The incidence of reported falls and recurrent falls was not different between device and non-device users, and the use of multiple devices or any one particular mobility device did not result in a greater incidence of falls or multiple falls than non-device users. Previous studies have shown evidence of greater risk of falling with mobility device use and walker use in particular;[11-15] these studies primarily looked within populations already using these devices without a comparison group of non-device users. The current study is reassuring in this regard. With adjustment for demographic factors, medical conditions, physical capacity, and fall history, the older adults who used mobility devices had similar incidence of reported falls as those who did not use mobility devices.
Mobility Device Use in Older Adults and Incidence of Falls and Worry About Falling: Findings from the 2011–2012 National Health and Aging Trends Study
Nancy M. Gell PhD, MPH1,*, Robert B. Wallace MD, MSc2, Andrea Z. LaCroix PhD3, Tracy M. Mroz PhD4 andKushang V. Patel PhD, MPH5
Article first published online: 6 MAY 2015
DOI: 10.1111/jgs.13393 The American Geriatrics Society
I did quite a bit of looking up statistics about falls with and without walkers when trying to convince my husband to use his. I was pretty amazed to learn the high number of falls that occur and result in ER visits WHILE USING A WALKER. Well, that was a shock! Any assistive device has to be used correctly to be effective, and even the elderly without dementia apparently have a hard time learning to use them correctly. Hmmm ... at home, maybe he was just as well off wall-and-furniture walking.
I just did a very quick look right now. If anything there is more evidence now that walkers can actually cause falls. More studies have been done. This is a hugely important topic, of course. It is going to receive more and more scrutiny, I am sure.
I am just pointing this out to help you let go of any responsibility or guilt you might carry. You really are powerless to control your mother's use of the walker. And even if you had the power, that would not necessarily be enough to prevent these awful injuries she sustains.
It is Sad. It is Scary. It is Not Your Fault. And it is not Mother's fault, either.
Dementia sucks.
Sadly my Mom not wanting to use a walker/cane became her downfall.... she fell in the kitchen and hit her head on the kitchen counter.... that was a month ago, she suffered major head trauma which accelerated dementia and she is now under hospice watch unable to walk or even stand. Sophe, feel free to use my Mom's condition to tell your Mom what could happen to her.
Oh, since my Mom's fall, my Dad is rarely without his walker. Sad that my Mom had to be his wake-up call.
I have no good ideas for you, but perhaps if I bump this post up someone else can help?