My mom had her 4 stroke on 6.26 .2016 she is paralyzed has dementia she has a feeding tube and now she started eating soft foods ..though her blood pressure continues to go up ....shes losing her mind doesnt know if shes hungry or not ? Help is this time for me to move yo hospice ...
My point? Mom was competent and the decision for surgery was hers. Same would be for your mom. In my mom's case she would have qualified for hospice, but she chose to fight the infection. She is still alive but very little quality of life and definitely not the life she would want for herself. Now the waiting game for the next fall or illness to consider what treatment if any will be best for her.
Did she have dementia before the stroke, or is it just beginning since the stroke? Is she on medication for her blood pressure? Is the doctor concerned about her pressure?
Finally, did your mother make her wishes clear about what kind of measures she'd want taken in this kind of situation? Do you have Medical power of attorney? Is the hospital/ facility recommending hospice? In general, i think of hospice as a good thing and many patients improve enough to come off that level of care.