She takes no meds (even though lexapro was prescribed by a neurologist and primary doctor). She is focused solely on going home and won't engage in activities much. She doesn't know how to leave and it isn't safe for her to live at home. Home care is not safe or feasible. Is it time to take her to a neuropsychologist? She finally asked to see a counselor, but with moderate cognitive impairment, early dementia/alzheimers, she has fabricated all sorts of history as well as had delusions. I can take that she tells everyone that I'm mean and unbending, but I have to keep her safe. Two caregivers suggested memory care, but I don't think she's quite ready for that as her dementia is early/moderate and most people can't tell that she has a problem if they haven't known her or haven't spent long with her. I fear that guardianship may eventually be necessary. Just don't know how to help her through her grief and depression, especially when she has forgotten my character and no longer trusts me and her reasoning is shot. Any suggestions?
Arrive unannounced. We did that and "caught" mom having a good time. Once her Zoloft increased from 20mg to 25 mg, she saw the world in a better light.
Angry is a phase. Wanting to "go home" is actually a desire to return to her younger self. I just say "No" quietly and add "You are safe here". Don't attempt to debate with her delusions. Throw the guilt card away when she plays it. If she is not happy to see you, excuse yourself and go. Stay only as long as she is nice. She will catch on to this strategy.