I am Mothers caregiver,9 years straight now.I want Mother to have peace in her environment on this journey. My husband says hurtful things to me. His constant picking and bickering just make things worse and I want to be at my best for Mother.Im 54 and hhe is 65.We have no children.
Did you ever discuss things with your mom, before care became a necessity? She might have said, "Take care of your family."
I do have to smile about your husband being my age. Our time will come soon. He needs to make plans, too. Good luck.
I agree with others that you need help.
From reading your past postings, sounds like Mom needs 24 hour care. At 54 you probably feel like 74 because all of this is so exhausting, physically and emotionally. Is this how you and hubby planned for your retirement? He's probably really resentful after almost 10 years.
Instead of being a "daughter" and a "wife" you have been a "caregiver", you can't be all of those things at once. He misses the wife he once had. I know maybe if he would jump in and help it would be better, but most of us know that isn't going to happen.