She is super frail and I am surprised she didn’t break anything. We made the decision not to call the doctor. I knew she’d be sore but now I am feeling terrible I didn’t take her.
My husband had just had surgery and was having a hard time. Between him and other issues I made the decision not to have her checked out.
NOW I feel I made the wrong decision. She has insurance and Medicare. I am worried doctor will put her in a hospital or nursing hone where she will catch germs.
Try not to feel guilty, that will not accomplish anything. Just like newborn babies, old people, and especially those with Dementia do not come with a instructions manual, so cut yourself a break, and get her evaluated now, to make sure she hasn't fractured any bones. You were doing your best at the time to prioritize the issues you had going on at home, it's going to be alright! Like others have mentioned, perhaps it's time for Mom to go into a Supportive Senior Living environment, such as a Nursing home, as you've got a lot going on at home.
You assessed the situation, determined there was no immediate danger or emergency, and triaged the other situations. You did the best you could at the time. If snd when you see that the situation has changed, or not improved, then you can deal with it. Don’t beat yourself up! Look forward- because that’s the direction we are all going👍🏼
Pay attention to what cwille says about placing her. You have a lot on your plate right now. There’s only one of you and you have two people to care for.
The doctor can only suggest that she goes to a nursing home. He/she can’t place her. That’s up to you.
If shes a fall risk, she may need a team of caregivers to supervise her. Not that you can’t handle it or aren’t doing a good job. My mom was in a nursing home for 4 years and she never had continual colds, flu or anything “germ-related”. But she was supervised and safe.
I wish I'd have taken her anyway,even though we both didn't want to go.
One way they can tell if there is pain is by her blood pressure. If its high, it could be caused by pain. I have a nurse in the family that could check Mom out when the ALs nurse was not there.
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