Hi my mom goes over at least 2-3 days per month to my brothers and he allows her to smoke and he knows she's not suppose to because of her medical problems I don't really get along with him because of this. Is there anything i can do about this issue if i stop my mom she gets really mad at me.
I think if your mum is only smoking at your brother's 2 or 3 days a month, you will have to let it go :-)
We need more information to really have advice. What are Mom's impairments? Are you her primary caregiver? Does she need a caregiver?
My mother has smoked for 79 years. My dad suffered from COPD, as did her brothers, and dad died of lung cancer. It isn't as if Mom doesn't know the risks. If she wants to continue smoking, that is her business. EXCEPT that when she could no longer live alone the options of where she could live were extremely limited because of her smoking. Our main concern was not her health (after 79 years, what is a few more?) but of her safety. We were really worried about all the cigarette burns in her chair and carpet. And with dementia the risk increased. Soooo... she now uses the e-cigarettes. At least she is not going to set the house on fire!
If you have managed to make the "right" decisions easy for your mom when she is with you, I think that is the best you can do. And it is quite a bit. Be glad for that.
Wheelie :-)