I realized that in the past few weeks my mom has been acting strange. First of all shes 75 years old. She keeps asking me the same question like 2,3 times every minute and i tell her i just answered your question 1 minute ago and she starts shouting at me saying "but you didnt answer it" Also once i saw her eating from the dog's plate.. What do i do with her? I know she has alzheimer but it has never been that bad..
Here are some things to know about dementia:
1) It gets worse -- always. If you have had a period where it "wasn't that bad" that is good. It is a progressive disease and it sounds like it has progressed for your mother. That is sad. It is not your fault or her fault. It is the nature of the disease.
2) Many persons with dementia go through a period of repeating the same questions over and over. They truly do not remember that they already got an answer. Arguing with them just results in bad feelings. They don't "learn" to not repeat questions. Answer the question as many times as it i asked, calmly and as if it is the first time.
3) Delusions are also common. Again, try not to get into arguments about the false belief. If she says the President is going to visit tomorrow, say, "Holy cow! We better get the house clean!" Most likely she will forget the delusion. (Although for some people the delusion persists.)
4) Lots of strange things may happen now that your mother's dementia has progressed. The more you can learn about this disease, the better you'll be able to cope. It may also help to join a support group for caregivers.
Make sure your mother has good medical care. Take care of yourself, too!
As for Your Mothers confusion, consult with Your Moms Doctor. It sounds like a UTI.
Where is your mother living? Who is responsible for her care? And when you say you 'know she has alzheimer', what do you mean - has she been investigated and diagnosed, or is that just what you conclude from her behaviour?
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