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My mother will be 70 this year and lives on her own (still works full time too). Her brother lives with her. A little background on her: She has lived her whole life thinking if you ignore something it will go away. She ignored her gall bladder issues for years before finally needing surgery. Even after surgery she still eats the same way. (she just runs to the bathroom after she eats). She was told she was diabetic about 10 years ago and was given pills (no shots thankfully). She took the one bottle and never refilled it. All she did to change her diet was to use splenda instead of sugar in her coffee. She still eats "meat and potatoes" at every meal and wow can she eat! (she's about 4'11" and 180 lbs). She was also raised to hide everything because of what other people will think. (not fix it--- just hide it). I'd say she was a hoarder but it's not nearly what you see on tv. She does have stuff she doesn't need but it's not to the point of being cripling. She hasn't done laundry in a laundromat in 7+ years. She washes her clothes by hand because of what people will think of her if they see her in a laundromat. She'll pay $150/week for a cab to go to work because of what people would think of her for taking the town bus (we live on Long Island and it's not like the city--- I agree there is a stigma for taking the bus out here but I take the bus because IDC what people think).

Anywhoo-- sorry. She now has bedbugs. I know they're not her fault. they happen. She could have gotten them from someone in a grocery store who knows. However, she has ignored them from day one. She acts like it's nothing and just flicks them off her and squishes them. then says, "oh , haha, there's another one"

I know I'm dealing with much more than just a bed bug infestation, I'm dealing with mental issues as well. I just do not know where to start or how to approach this subject. She will be downright adamant about us (I have 3 sisters) doing anything.

I forgot she lives in a downstairs apartment and her landlords live upstairs. My sister says they have them upstairs, she saw them on the frame of the door. My mother never even told her landlords about the mold in the bathroom and the ceiling is all black and the sheetrock is ruined. (Again---because of what they will think of her and they will throw her out--event tho I've told her a million times they cannot throw her out on the street).

So any and all advice is greatly appreciated. I don't want to say the wrong things to mom and get her pissed or have her withdraw. I need to approach this delicately. I know of the expenses involved w/ bed bugs as well. And none of us have any money so I'm wondering if DSS or APS could help.

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you can kill bed bugs yourself. an online store called pestmall sells zip up mattress covers and the diotomecious earth. bed bugs are lazy and only live about 8 feet from the beds / chairs. sprinkle DE inside the mattress covers before you zip them up, sprinkle DE on the floor under the beds and burn all suspect stuffy furniture. sprinkle DE around all baseboards to stop the travel from other apartments. wintergreen alcohol kills bugs and eggs on contact. its a waiting game and takes a few weeks to eliminate them but it can be done. the whole house heat treatment doesnt work cause it just drives them into the walls and even into the yard if necessary. DE is just non toxic crushed sea corral so be careful not to vaccum it back up. DE kills german roaches and fleas too. we killed them in moms home with 50 people telling us it couldnt be done. they were wrong.
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i killed them , all of them . all you people who predict defeat from the start -- defeat is guaranteed ..
losers ..
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If you call DSS, they can have the health dept check the premises, but fair warning, they may take her out of there and condemn the place. Bedbugs will hop on to you and come home with you. So stay away and tell her why.
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Forget treating them. Not A Chance. They are impressively tenacious and make cockroaches look like wimps in terms of survival. Stay away is dead right: I just hope you haven't already brought any little guests home with you.

If the whole house is infested, and it sounds as if her living conditions are pretty dreadful anyway, then you'd be doing all of the residents a favour by reporting this issue. I appreciate the sensitivities, though. I think in your position I'd make a preliminary call for advice only, then follow that through without shame.

I've got a mother like that. Threadworms, head lice, cockroaches, a particularly memorable broken thermostat on the immersion heater so that the water came out literally boiling - if she could pretend it wasn't happening, she did. You have to respect what matters to her, I know, but then again a joke's a joke - you do eventually lose patience with it. Sorry, mum, but welcome to Planet Reality. Good luck!
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Captain - I remember you used diatomaceous earth, didn't you? You don't take lip from anyone, on two legs or six.
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They'll be back.
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theres an infestation in the entire western world. uk , aus, israel, germany, st louis, san fran, indy, cinncinnati, louisville... the fda is considering lifting the ban on the chenicals that will kill them but one or two convulsing, dead babies are one or two too many. for now DE is the s**t. their bodies have a waxy shell and the dust sticks to their shell, prevents exoskeleton plates from closing tightly and the critters die of dehydration. i build houses, trucks, cars, trikes, engines, trannys, lawns, patios, etc. outsmarting a bug is childsplay by comparison.
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JustSomeone, I was rereading your post and now your answer, too - have you thought of offering to speak to her landlord for her? I hadn't grasped before that her landlord may not be aware of the problem in her bathroom, and apart from anything else he is responsible for maintenance and he needs to know.

Do you know the landlord to speak to? Is he an ogre? How long has she been a good, rent-paying tenant? After her earlier experiences I'm not blaming her for being nervous; just wondering if she's thinking the worst without real cause.
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No real lasting treatment. Throw away mattress, clean whole room, wiping down walls, etc with cleaner and bleach. Bring in new mattress with zip enclosed mattress cover.

Replace all bedding, sheets, blankets, decorative pillows, bed skirts etc. OR wash everything in very hot water and dry in hot dryer. YEP, she'll have to do this in laundromat.

They are tenacious and you have to be careful. I travel all the time and never lay clothes or suitcase on bed. I unpack in laundry room when I retune and wash all my pajamas immediately.
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The best thing to do is call the health inspector tell them you suspect bed bugs and go from there since she is renting they should make the landlord deal with it bed bugs are a health hazard and risk I am currently dealing with them as well I am moving and leaving all of my furniture they were here before I moved in and living in the walls I have tried getting rid of them and can't. If you call the health inspector they will also tell your mother the risk she is taking by ignoring it. If they are bad enough you are seeing them then the problem is far worse than you think. I have them severely bad and don't see them unless I look. I sprayed with alcohol (because it will kill them and their eggs) on a daily basis in every Crack crevice furniture base boards and walls I seen and still have them just as bad as the day I discovered them. They are very hard to get rid of and yes if you spend any amount of time in your mother's home you can carry them home with you especially if you have sat on the furniture. So you need to check your beds around the seems especially where your bed touches the wall they like cool dark places. You should be very careful going there or not at all.
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