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This is always a difficult task because it's a reminder that they're losing the ability to manage their lives. Start gradually by asking how you can help them...such as whether making a list of monthly and quarterly bills, general dates received, dates due, account numbers, payable data, etc. would help them.
The secondary value of this is that you also have an inventory of their bills so you can call the creditor if some bills don't appear to have been received (when in reality they're stuck inbetween the cushions on the sofa or hiding under some junk mail).
The goal is to make sure they're paid, whether it's by you or your parents. You could even make an "event" of it, fixing hot chocolate or something for your parents, sitting down together on a weekly or monthly basis, and making sure that all the bills are paid.
Take the same gentle approach for their financial and real property assets, as well as other items of value. If they don't have their legal decisions documented, find an elder law or estate planning attorney and get wills created (assuming they're both still capable of understanding the nature of what they're doing), as well as medical advanced directives.
In my experience, it's basically a step by step, issue by issue approach rather than a takeover like a military junta. You need to gain their confidence, while also finding a way to make them still feel worthwhile and valuable as people.
For the issues that are more emotional or difficult, plan them to coincide with, precede or follow something your parents enjoy. For us it's a Dairy Queen treat in the summer. That always seems to provide some relaxation after a tough day, and the sugar high makes them feel good.
Garden Artists advice is very good. I have a similar situation except it's Dad with dementia and Mom who is getting a little forgetful. In my case it took a combination of honest, gentle discussions with Mom and some behind the scenes actions. As I realized things were going down hill I quietly began collecting all the info, financial stuff, copies of files, contact info for docs, utility bills etc. now, a couple years late rim very glad I did as I handle all the bills and work with mom on keeping meds and appointments straight. We don't even attempt to reason with Dad. He's stuck in 1968, everything is just fine. I'm currently trying to get them to accept some in home help. They say they don't need any help, I know better but can't force it. They've met the cargivers and liked them but it will takes crisis to get them in the house on any regular basis.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The secondary value of this is that you also have an inventory of their bills so you can call the creditor if some bills don't appear to have been received (when in reality they're stuck inbetween the cushions on the sofa or hiding under some junk mail).
The goal is to make sure they're paid, whether it's by you or your parents. You could even make an "event" of it, fixing hot chocolate or something for your parents, sitting down together on a weekly or monthly basis, and making sure that all the bills are paid.
Take the same gentle approach for their financial and real property assets, as well as other items of value. If they don't have their legal decisions documented, find an elder law or estate planning attorney and get wills created (assuming they're both still capable of understanding the nature of what they're doing), as well as medical advanced directives.
In my experience, it's basically a step by step, issue by issue approach rather than a takeover like a military junta. You need to gain their confidence, while also finding a way to make them still feel worthwhile and valuable as people.
For the issues that are more emotional or difficult, plan them to coincide with, precede or follow something your parents enjoy. For us it's a Dairy Queen treat in the summer. That always seems to provide some relaxation after a tough day, and the sugar high makes them feel good.