I moved in with my mother... she has many heath and some mobility problems. I care for all her needs (lately to my personal detriment) but honestly I did not expect her to survive this long. She is more than likely BPD or NPD which I only really discovered since I came here. The issue is that she looks to me to EVERYTHING for her... everything. From fetching notebooks to fetching cookies. If she wants it she screams my name. I had developed a home based business so I could care for her.. but the demands are becoming unreasonable. Albeit, she would have to "work" a bit to get the cookies from the cabinet... but she seems to just fine to call me out of bed to get them for her!! Woman, get you butt off the chair and work your way over there and get them... even it takes 10 mins get there. I am becoming resentful of getting yelled to at midnight for cookies (which she could get herself if she really wanted them)... thanks, becoming hopeless... M
You are telling us, "Woman, get you butt off the chair and work your way over there and get them... even it takes 10 mins get there." What are you telling Mother?
Why are you putting up with this?
(I get it a lot better now that I've been on the board a while and seen many explanations from people with narcissistic parents. But I think it might be a good exercise for you to really look at what you get out of being an unappreciated servant.)
What would I do with a parent with some mobility who expected me to do EVERYTHING? Whatever it was, I would certainly do it from outside of her home.