I visit 2x a day, mom's a really happy person however, when I go there several of the other patients cling to me (I'm very friendly and do call most patients by name) and want me to walk with them and its causing an issue because its cutting into moms time and shes getting irritated and its waring on me at times. I actually had a patients relative (who was with her at the time) say to me today on my way to my moms room..." I have to talk to you, Susan cried for 90 min when you left yesterday and then again last night for and hour". I care about Susan but I was shocked and immediately felt awful. I don't know what to do, but I have to somehow detach a little because I need to be able to visit with my mom when I go there. Any suggestions? Am I doing something wrong? Please advise, Thanks
Now the other problem. I would assume this lady has Dementia. So no amount of explaining that ur there for your Mom is going to get thru to her. She has latched onto you for a reason and that is not ur fault or ur responsibility. The family member was wrong in telling u that the woman was upset. I guess u could have said that u were sorry to hear it but...the time you have needs to be for your Mom. Maybe the family member should talk to the Nurse and ask if she can help you with resolving the womans attachment because you really r a stranger.
As far as the family member, it caught me off guard ( it had been an emotional day for me) when she told me and then my mom walked into the hallway and I went to her, I do plan on talking to her and letting her know how sorry I am Susan got so upset. Thank you
Most times, the residents will not remember you from last time......they are only responding to you THIS time, as if it were their first and only interaction with you. Keep this in mind so you can allow yourself to enjoy your visits to the community without feeling guilty or obligated to the other residents