She has nothing but S.S. income and that isnt very much. She should be in a nursing home but there is no money to put her there. How do I get her there and how long before I must start paying as she has nothing but her home which has a HELOC loan on it.
I AM assuming that it's a doctor who feels your mother needs facility care, not you; is this correct? If not, on what basis have you made this decision? Does the doctor feel she needs rehab, skilled nursing care, assisted living, or to be in a dementia unit?
Does she have Medicare? Medicaid? You mention selling the home so I'm assuming that you're thinking of applying for Medicaid, or have you already applied for it?
It would help if you could provide more information about the situation, including the diagnoses made by physicians of your mother's health.