During the course of my cancer treatments, I wasn't taking care of my accounts due my treatments plus lack of work due to Covid. Monies that should have gone to the facility was automatically taken from the bank to pay bills. I had auto pay on. I want to make good on payments but I cannot pay the substantial amount they want. They are starting discharged papers. I will still pay them but smaller increments. I want to bring her home anyway b/c she is extremely depressed there (as she doesn't speak good English) and tells me all the time that if she has to stay there, she would rather die :( I'd rather give her 5 happy years than 10 miserable ones. However I will need help with her due to my illness too. What can I do?
As far as Mom being depressed, I think this is a very common problem amongst patients in a residential situation during COVID especially. But the truth is for many elders complaints about where they are living, wanting to “go home” are common no matter where they are living so bringing her home to your house may not solve this and 5 good years over 10 miserable ones might mean professional residential care as much as it could your home. Again not knowing moms problems or cognitive state watching your health suffer in order to care for her may cause her as much or more pain as staying where she is, just a thought. It also may be harder than usual at the moment due to COVID to set up help at home and you need to consider exposure for yourself in a weakened state as well as Mom as you think about having people coming and going, I haven’t looked to see where you are. If you do decide to do this though have it all set up so from hour 1 you have all the help you need before bringing her home. Good luck, I can only imagine the spot you are in and the stress it is adding to your plate, please take care of yourself my thoughts are with you.
just ask god for a liltle help.... He will.