I have already filed multiple complaints and a state report about this nurse. Both my mom and I have been told by others what things she says. The nurse was removed from my moms care over a year ago due to psychological abuse to my mom, and she’s had it in for my mom ever since (I’ve heard she does the same to some other residents). She has gotten 75% of the staff to not like my mom and it directly affects her care. If I don’t call they will leave her in bed all day and rarely change her diaper. What can do I? I feel like this horrible person has control over most of my moms caregivers. So many used to be my moms friends and now no one will just go and talk to her. Let alone give her the care she needs.
I am considering bringing her home over this, but I don’t know. I have three kids, 5, 8 and 10. They are getting older but still loud and crazy and our house is small. My mom would most likely live in our dining/living room area. Our dog barks. My mom enjoys silence and likes to watch tv all day. I just don’t know...
I can't figure how you can get the evidence you need. How helpless you must feel. I am so sorry. I hope you will update us.
Research other SNFs in your area and go take a tour of a few. Find one that feels right to YOU and remove your mother from an untenable situation asap.
Good luck!
Be sure to document all incidents.
And no I wouldn't bring her into your home, unless you are 150% sure you and your family can handle it, and you have some kind of outside help lined up to assist you with her. It sounds like your house is already quite chaotic, and adding an elderly person who needs 24/7 care would just add to the chaos. It's very sweet that you are thinking about that, but realistically I just don't think it would be best for anyone. Best wishes for the future for your mom.
Find out if you can install cameras in your mothers room and tell them you will now be documenting any and all abuse and reporting it.
All that being said, how do you know 75% of the staff don't like your mom because of this bully? Is your mom telling you or are you observing some of this?
Is this a small family run facility or a bigger one? Is there a director and is it licensed under the state?
Squeaky wheel often gets the grease but I'm not clear on what type of facility your mom is in- size, etc.
Do not bring her into your home under any circumstances. Your plate is full now.
My words, exactly.