Not online. I work and go to school. I'm too busy most of the time to cater to her every need on a timely basis. Sometimes, she's waiting on me to have time to do her grocery shopping. She's no longer computer savvy, as most services require that you order, and pay for your groceries online, then they'll deliver. I'm looking for senior services, where mom can call, tell them what she needs. Possibly give them her debit card # over the phone to pay. Then they'll deliver. Has anyone dealt with this before? I need some options. Even if there's a program where she pays a monthly fee. Thanks for your help!
(P.S. Mom's at home bored all day, so she cooks a lot. She can no longer drive herself to the market to restock her groceries. Although I never let her run out of food completely, she still runs out of things, and has to wait on me to have time. Which puts a lot of stress and pressure on me; amount other things she needs me to do for her. Never thought I'd have another person who would lean on me for almost everything). Thanks again for any info you can provide.
Barring that, I'd suggest you and mom sit down and make a list of all the things she's Likely to need at the store, numbered, with a place to check mark the actual items she wants at the store once a week.
Then, I'd take that list to a smaller independent grocery store very close by, ask for the store manager, show him the list and ask if your mom could call once a week and order by item number from the list...and, of course, have them delivered. For a fee.
This caregiving is a long haul journey. People here are genuinely trying to help, and we find humor to be a good tool. Please try to see that.
I know for myself caring for my elderly parents was a totally new experience, mainly all trial and error until I came to this website.
Sorry if I sounded rude when I had first answered you, one tends to get harden dealing with the elderly and I prefer to tell it like it is without any sugar coating.... it has helped me deal with this new journey a lot easier.
With the thousands upon thousands of grocery items in today's stores, it would be quite time consuming to take an order over the phone. I know it takes me awhile just to do the on-line grocery service and here I have photos, sizes, and a lot of brands to choose from with one click.
Put yourself in your Mom's shoes, what would happen if you couldn't drive to where you wanted to go, like work and school? It would be a great impact on your life, right? I would make time.
Oh, I really doubt your Mom is bored all day unless she has a cleaning service that comes in weekly to do all the cleaning and all the laundry. And the hundred of things that one does to maintain a household.
You sound quite young, you mentioned "never thought I'd have another person who lean on me for almost everything".... do you have children yet? Surprise.
Thanks,
TLC
I do all of my mom's shopping in person, but I know what she needs on a pretty regular basis. You can do it online pretty quickly once you get the general schedule set up and understand how quickly your mom uses things. I feel good when I get my mom's pantry full-to-the brim, because I know I don't have to worry about it for a while. So look to buying in bulk and buying ahead, so your mom always has something she can make. Frozen foods are great for that.
Does your mom use a computer at all, like could she check off things she wants you to order for her? Or does she stay away from it all together? How old is your mom? I know around here they have senior classes for computer stuff if she's at all interested in learning.
I also used to volunteer to go with a person (a blind man in my case) weekly to get his groceries for him. He'd go and then I'd unload them into his kitchen. You could also explore to see if something like that exists where your mom lives. This was through a church group, even though I didn't belong to the church.
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