Hello, my mom really needs to move out of her house. The size, the bills, the up keeping of it all has finally taken a toll on her and her mental health. She wants to move in with me and my husband, which we both agree is ok... but we are barely starting our lives! I am 5 months pregnant, we are in the middle of apt hunting (specifically to accommodate all 4 of us) yet I know I need to do this. I will not turn my back on her. It's just hard, I spend all day researching for her- her financial situation, the programs she's on, she's tied to so many gov't programs that they make it difficult for her to just up and leave. One can of worms opens up another and by the end of the day, I'm more confused than ever. I just need support.
It sounds like she is quite dependent or she wouldn't be putting this off on her pregnant daughter.
Think a little bit down the line. What if she needs 24/7 care, or if she is just the irresponsible type, what if she brings a boyfriend in to live with her. Believe me, we hear it all on this site.
Good luck and I hope it works out for you. (I think a 2 bedroom apartment would be great. "I am sorry mom, but there is just no room.")
And you and your husband must immediately STOP agreeing that she can move in with you. You have a baby on the way. You're going to be a bit busy.