my mom, 92 has been there one week..today, she threatened to jump off a balcony unless she can leave-they are putting her in memory care. She will hate that more, and it will cost another $800 per month..is private home care any better ? should she be on anti anxiety meds ?? she has always been narcissistic and negative..much more with dementia. Siblings, haven't helped at all (they are a lot like her) until last week, she lived alone but I had to constantly help her with everything..she has NO short term memory.
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My Dad went into senior living on his own request. And it took him awhile to adjust to the new floor plan of his apartment, to find things in the cabinets, to learn his way around the building.... new noises, new faces... different lights shining in the bedroom window at night. It's an adjustment for everyone.
That kind of neediness makes me frustrated and angry that she seems never willing to do anything to help herself. It's always up to me to do anything else that the AL cannot insist that she do such as showering, eating, taking her meds, not walking out the front door. I appear twice a week and she acts like she's been on the verge of a breakdown waiting for me. As soon as we start talking she becomes visibly saner.
Mom can still eat by herself, get dressed fine, and toilet herself, so I don't think MC is in order yet, but this self-inflicted neediness, especially the helplessness, is wearing me down. Yesterday the tissue box was empty and she had been doing without them for a week waiting for me to come in and replace it. She told me exactly where the new box could be found.
Yes, Mom has always been this way, but vascular dementia and whatever else, has increased her sense of entitlement and ungratefulness.
So my experience says that your LO may never "adjust" to AL. You will have to adjust instead.
I knew it was time to get my Dad's caregivers when one night at 8 pm my Dad called me and said he was hungry [Mom just moved into long-term-care]. Good grief, this man was an inventor but he couldn't make himself a sandwich or figure out how to cook a TV dinner. My sig other went over to the house, got a Stouffer's out of the freezer and ran it though the microwave.
I got on the phone the next day with an Agency. The Caregivers just loved helping Dad, as Mom had trained him well, he was so easy going, and never argued with the caregivers :)