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Everything checked out. They gave her something for her nerves and sent her home. she is a very nervous person and very afraid of dyeing. I have her on never pills but they don't help all day long. what can I do for her?
Moonbeam, I feel for you and your poor Mom. I'm only 64 caring for my 92 y/o Uncle and I am beginning to wonder if I will make it to 65. The stress he creates will probably kill me before he dies (and I don't live with him!). At this point, I would call her regular doctor and let him know what is going on. She would probably benefit from either a higher dosage or more frequent dosage of those nerve pills. There are also herbal teas that have a calming effect - you might want to try a natural foods shop and they can tell you if the herbs would interfere with the drugs. You could ask the pharmacist also. Blessings and best wishes.
If the medications are helping, I'd also check into counseling for your mom. Help her deal with her fears of dying and any issues she has around those. They can also teach her relaxation techniques, so she can calm herself down. Giving her medications are treating the symptoms. She needs something to help her get to the cause of her fears. She could also talk with a minister, if she would be more comfortable with that idea.
I have bouts of panic disorder. A couple of things that help me are drinking water and eating a good meal. My anxiety is greatest when I don't eat enough. And I don't know what it is about water, but drinking it is very calming.
There is something else you may try. Some sedatives are not as good as others for actual panic attacks. Doctors used to prescribe Xanax for them, because it was the best. Now they have pulled back from Xanax and prescribe Ativan quite often. Ativan is just not as good for many people when it comes to panic attacks.
Knowing death is near is very frightening for people. It is a normal fear. The only "cure" I know for comforting the fear is spiritual. There is the big question: what happens when I die? I don't know how your mother's spiritual life is, but that may be something she would like to explore with a trusted person, e.g. a pastor or social group. Talking about it with family might be too close. I hope she has someone she can talk to about it.
You know, it might be a great service in communities to have groups that meet to discuss what happens when we die. Of course, everyone in the group would need to be on the same spiritual page, so they wouldn't end up arguing religion. :)
I suffered terribly from panic attacks. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helps tremendously. You basically teach it to yourself by changing the way you think. I started talking myself out of my panic attacks when I felt then coming on,, I would tell myself that I have lived through every panic attack I have ever had and I will live through this one. Gradually they became less extreme and happened less often until the basically stopped. Every once in awhile I will get one, they are worse in the winter because the days are short and dark, but I still can almost always talk myself out of them now. Maybe you could go online and learn about CBT and then teach it to your mum or at least talk her through her attacks. I wish you much luck!
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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At this point, I would call her regular doctor and let him know what is going on. She would probably benefit from either a higher dosage or more frequent dosage of those nerve pills. There are also herbal teas that have a calming effect - you might want to try a natural foods shop and they can tell you if the herbs would interfere with the drugs. You could ask the pharmacist also. Blessings and best wishes.
There is something else you may try. Some sedatives are not as good as others for actual panic attacks. Doctors used to prescribe Xanax for them, because it was the best. Now they have pulled back from Xanax and prescribe Ativan quite often. Ativan is just not as good for many people when it comes to panic attacks.
Knowing death is near is very frightening for people. It is a normal fear. The only "cure" I know for comforting the fear is spiritual. There is the big question: what happens when I die? I don't know how your mother's spiritual life is, but that may be something she would like to explore with a trusted person, e.g. a pastor or social group. Talking about it with family might be too close. I hope she has someone she can talk to about it.
You know, it might be a great service in communities to have groups that meet to discuss what happens when we die. Of course, everyone in the group would need to be on the same spiritual page, so they wouldn't end up arguing religion. :)