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Hi Lou,
I'm so sorry. This is one of the worst things to deal with. In a nutshell, I recommend that people tell the spouse one time about the death and if possible take him or her to the funeral (you did this already). After that, as is said above, make something up and go for distraction. You may want to read this article:

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/telling-someone-with-dementia-their-spouse-died-133806.htm

Take care,
Carol
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I agree with Jessie,
Just make something up. When my mom kept looking for my dad I just told her that he was at work, at the store, etc. I do the same thing when she asks about going to see her parents (I tell her that they are on vacation). It's so much better than seeing them cry all over again.
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Lou, I am so sorry to read about your mother. I know you miss her a lot and it probably hurts you to have to tell your father again. ((((Hugs)))) Each of us have to feel our way through what is best for our parent. Perhaps you could tell him that she has gone shopping or on a trip, instead of telling the truth. The small lies might feel bad to us, but they can be the kindest way to answer. It is too sad to see them have to start the grief over again each time. If the fibbing bothers you, you can think that you mother is indeed shopping or on a trip on the other side.
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