My mother (85) fell and broke her arm. She's now house bound. We have a nurse, social worker and a home health aide coming in once a week. The nurse & social worker have suggested my mother go to an assisted living location. She refuses.
I have all POA authority. Can I MAKE HER go?
For an introvert, being forced to deal with strangers every day is horrifying. I would hate it, so I understand your mom wanting to stay at home. If you want to influence your Mom's decision, you must see it from her viewpoint first.
Right now, I'm trying to balance my own life with her almost daily demands PLUS trying to get her the help she needs. I live about 45 minutes away so that is taking its toll.
My mother does not have dementia. Or Alzheimers. Or any other mental condition.
I'm going to assume that the help is temporary and will only be paid for by Medicare for a few weeks. Does she understand that? Once the help is gone, can she function on her own? Apparently these professionals think not.
In your shoes, I would take mom on some tours of Assisted Living places, and maybe some Independent Living places. Let her see what they are like.
Post back. Let us know how it's going.
If she ends up in the hospital again, you do not bring her back to her home. The discharge planners at the hospital should assist you with placement.
I understand her frustration (I've been housebound myself due to foot surgeries). However, she doesn't think that she has any problems.
Medicaid is paying for the help, temporarily...10 days was what I was told.
I don't know anyone who could come in for 2-3 hours every day. I can't. And, I'm "it" as far as family goes.
If your mom has a pension, savings and SS, she can pay for care. You can contact home healthcare agencies in your area ( like the visiting nurse service) and she can pay for an attendant, a bath aide, housekeeping, etc.
Medicaid is the health insurance that people who are poor go on to pay for them to be in a nursing home. I don't believe that medicaid pays for assisted living.
As others have mentioned. As long as your mother is mentally competent, then you can't make her do anything. Her decisions may not be wise, but they are her's.