My mother carries everything "but the kitchen sink" in her purse....2 sets of all her keys (in case she loses one set), a magnitized pick up "stick", loose change, 2 checkbooks, 2 wallets, her coupons, a tape measure, screwdrivers, etc. She has back and knee problems and her doctor has advised her to lighten the load by getting a smaller purse and only carrying what she absolutely needs.
Despite this, mom absolutely refuses to remove anything from her purse. Yet, she constantly complains how much she aches and how difficult it is to keep her purse strap on her shoulder while walking with her cane or how heavy the purse is when she tries to put it into a shopping cart.
She still drives and could leave the screwdrivers and some of the other things in her car but she won't do that either. She keeps insisting that she needs everything with her.
Is this dementia? Alzheimer's? Or, just stubborness?
I'm at my wits end!
Tell you what's true. I always thought mom was a "mark" -- apt to have her purse stolen right off her shoulder with her being pushed or pulled down in the process.
Maybe you could try an awesome fanny pack AND a purse. The purse, with the kitchen sink in it, could be put on the floor of the car when she went in anyplace. And she'd wear her fanny pack...?
In the end, if she won't? She won't. ;) If she's a little fashionista like mom is, though, that just might work.
Try to let it go.
If the weight is too much, maybe your mother would enjoy one of the rollators. You can put the purse in the compartment and roll on without any strain on your mother's frame.
I never had children so my shoulder purses are quite small... a good friend of mine, also childless, also uses a very small purse. I just weighed my purse on a postage scale, 1.75 pounds.
Over the years I tried to get my Mom to change to a shoulder purse as I noticed while she is trying to walk with a cane, she has issues carrying her purse plus anything else she needs to carry, like a sweater.... [sigh]. Oh well, it's her choice to juggle everything... like what do I know :P
With Homeland Security concerns, all kinds of places now have detectors set up. Many places - like museums - have to have them in place to get insurance. One of my friends is a docet at a museum and they just cringe when seniors have field trips there as every 3rd one is carrying "contraband". Either they remove and place in a basket @ security or do not tour. No exceptions.
Do what you can to lessen her load and get her into a cross-body purse.
As for the screwdrivers, that is a safety hazard.... yikes, if your Mom falls and she lands on her purse, one of those screwdrivers could come through the purse material and hurt her. Or does she plan to fix the car while out and about?
As for the a tape measurer, I assume it is one of those metal case ones? Buy her a cloth tape measurer, it weights an ounce or two.
One really doesn't need to carry two checkbooks. Carry one that is used the most often when out shopping.... as for the other one, she can take out a blank check and put that in her wallet. In fact, there are nice wallets that have a place to insert a checkbook, credit cards, Medicare card, etc. No need for 2 wallets. My gosh, if she had to dump out her purse, one would think she was pick pocking :P
I've tried to get her to leave some of the stuff in the car or at home. No dice!
I've also given her a nice key ring for her to put just a car key and her house key on it so she could leave the others at home. Again, no dice. She insists that she needs to keep all of the keys with her.
I even showed her how I keep just a spare car key in my wallet. Didn't do any good.
It is frustrating as she fights to keep the purse strap on her shoulder as well as walk with her cane (she walks hunched over because of leg surgery.)
I DO WORRY about her falling. But, anything I've said to her goes in one ear and out the other (no, she doesn't have hearing problems!)
When I take her shopping, I usually park right by the store's door and go in and bring a cart out to the car so that she can put her cane and purse in the cart. Then I hold the door for her so she can go into the store. After she's safely inside, I go park the car.
As for her driving, I haven't seen her drive (I live about 40 minutes away) but she just got her license renewed.
I'm frustrated because she won't take the doctor's advice, which would help her feel better.
Google "carrying heavy purses" and you will see an x-ray photo, click on that and click on the article, on how a person need to hold their body when using same. Maybe, just maybe, your Mom will take notice.
One other consideration - a heavy purse on the same side as a bad hip can actualy be very helpful to reduce force needed across that hip in stance phase.