She is 86, hearing and vision loss, heart failure and COPD patient. She has been ill for over a week and not wanting to get out of bed much or eat enough. She claims her problem is hemorrhoids but she admitted today that it has never been this bad in her life before. I convinced her to let me make an appointment for tomorrow for "nerve pills" but what if she refuses to go? Can I get an ambulance to take her? I don't have POA
You could call her MD and ask Hospice to evaluate her at home. It may be time to have that talk. So if she refuses to go just tell her "It's OK mom, Hospice said that since you can't get to the doctor, they will come here." Her reaction will tell you just how sick she is or isn't.
Things didn't go exactly as planed with the doctor. She seemed delirious with pain, I got her to agree to let me take her to ER and then called an ambulance. It took a long time of course in ER but she has been admitted and she truly needed the help. I am in contact with the home health care representative and determined that we are going to find a solution for a better quality of care for her than just one daughter, me, who has been learning I go.
You did the right thing for your mom and are doing a wonderful job so far! Good luck on the medical POA.