My mom has always been anxious, but it beginning to be uncontrollable. She broke her hip in July and the problem got worse after she left rehab. She is now calling me 30+ times a day, just to hear my voice. I am her care giver, and like many of you, have an a**hole brother who does nothing for her, not even visit. Of course, he lived off my parents for years. Now that I think of it, he rarely calls her, so that's a clue. I can tolerate a few call during the day, but 30 calls seems excessive. She is in independent living, and persuaded the administrator to call me because she was sure I was dead! I turned off my phone due to a doctor's appointment. When in rehab her anxiety was so apparent the doctor ordered an antidepressant. She would fight it so it did no good, forcing me to take her cell phone. I am now forced to turn mine off for part of the day to get some peace. Any comments or observations?
If you continue to answer the phone, she will continue to call. Tell hubby and daughter that they need to stop answering the calls as well. And what is your daughter doing with her cell phone on during Chemistry class?! Sorry, one of my pet peeves how people are so attached to their phones they forget about decency. I also know that in many situations a cell phone is perfectly acceptable. But not, IMHO, in a college chem class.
Surgery anesthesia is very hard on a elderly person's brain. In fact it was after surgery my Mom had that her dementia became more pronounced. While I think the anesthesia did something to her brain, it could have become more noticeable because following the surgery we were paying more attention to her.
Could it be that your Mom may be developing dementia? If so, the anxiety will continue to worsen as well as any other symptoms she is showing.