My question today is this. When she ask me the same question time and time again in a short amount of time, how do I continue to answer her in a kind way when it is working on my last nerve. I so want to be kind and loving to her, but find it very hard to hold in my frustration. I know there is no real answer to this question, i'm hoping for hints for coping.
SERENITY NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You answer it kindly because you love her, and you realize that for her? It's the first time she asked. Then, after Serenity Now said silently in your head doesn't work, you STILL answer kindly and go have a glass of wine, carefully tucking in your angel wings before you sit down.
Also try distracting her to some other subject. Answer her question and then ask if she'd like some ginger ale. Does she want ice in it? Oh! You'll serve it in those nice new thermal glasses that will keep it cold. (Make a big deal over the new topic.) This does not, alas, always work. But it is always worth a try.
I read things on both anxiety and Ativan when it comes to short-term memory. Both are known to have effects, so it isn't your imagination. My mother is better on days when her anxiety is low and she forgets to take her Ativan. She is almost normal (for her). When she has anxiety during the daytime, 0.5 mg is the best dose for her. Any more than that makes her forgetful and sleepy.