She will not wear gown, it has to be pajamas. I cannot stay up. I have sitter 3 nights week. Can't afford more and no family. I have been getting up thru night to change her, but if asleep doesn't want to be bothered. I find handkerchief in her Bsc or on floor with pee. Have to put on pull-ups since she is up and down. Should I ask dr for something to put her to sleep at night? I am soooo tired.
Most of us here are "fixers". Until you can't fix "it" without throwing something else out of whack. Sleep is of paramount importance in the hierarchy of human needs, right up there with shelter and food.
Can you get her a 1-piece jumpsuit that she can't take off (closes in the back) and put her in some pull-ups on the nights you're alone? Is the main issue she's not sleeping, or she's wetting the bed, or both?
Talk to her doctor about how to fix her sodium level. Is she on a diuretic? That can cause a lot of peeing and low sodium. Again, you need to talk to her doctor about that.