My Mother is starting to lose her memory and repeating things over and over again. My brother lives with her but is having a difficult time stepping in and taking care of what needs to be done. She will agree to do things like calling a serviceman to fix something but when they arrive, she does not remember calling them and sends them away. She has always been a woman that has to be in control but her decisions lately are making no sense. My brother says he is having trouble stepping in to help. This is all new ground for us. How can we step in to help if she refuses to be helped?
What is wrong with your brother? Get communication coming from him and work as a team. Eventually--and hopefully sooner rather than later for your sake-- you can transition her into a A/D care home where she can be safe and in a controlled environment without YOU getting burnt out.
Sounds easy, huh? No, but stay calm, make your plan, get brother to cooperate, and pray a lot. If she is already very confused, I recommend bypassing losing your own mind, sleep, personal life, health, etc. and find a nice place for her where you can visit and be a daughter. Take care.
Not to add to your concerns but to offer guidance....have you considered how your mother has/will respond to telemarketers on the phone or door-to-door salesmen...when she is alone?