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Aren't people who are 94 years old supposed to sleep quiet a bit? My Mom, I have commented many times on here, went from sleeping 20-22 hours to practically nothing and won't take a nap either. She doesn't allow me to either. If I should accidentally doze off in my recliner, where I am supposed to set all day and evening so she knows my whereabouts at all times, she wakes me up by shaking me! She wears me out! I am at wit's end, because now it is getting to when my husband naps after he comes in from work, she is waking him up. We get up at 4:00 every morning, and on some mornings I have to put her to back to bed and even then she is up by daylight. Can't get her to go to bed, I'm guessing she is afraid she is going to miss something! Are all old people so nosy?? What I am wondering is there something that I could give her early in the evening to help her rest and sleep?? It's to the point of, heaven forbid, if I should go to my room and lay down on the bed to just rest in privacy or even disappear in the house for privacy!! She comes on the hunt of me. October will make me 3 years of caregiving and I am tired and worn out and my health is suffering from it. We have a lot of stress going on because my husband's job is ready to shut down at the end of the month, leaving us in a lot of financial binds. I need to go to work, but can't because I take care of Mom. I am at wit's end! Any answers?

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Has her medication changed? The old stuff made her sleep, and the new stuff wakes her up?

There certainly is medication available to help. Consult her doctor. You can't go on getting no sleep.
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I feel your pain!! My Mom, who has dementia and Parkinson's, goes to bed at 7, wakes at 11 pm, 1 am, 2 am, and then finally 4 am...each time she thinks it's morning time, makes her bed and is headed to the kitchen to make coffee. I'm up each time redirecting her back to bed and when I tell her what time it is, she just giggles. She thinks it's hilarious that her days and nights are so screwed up, lol. That's with her being on Seroquel 50 mg...I actually just called her doc today and they are starting her on Paxil as well. Her lack of sleep definitely increases her hallucinations and confusion. I hope you find a solution soon!!
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you poor thing i know how hard it is getting no sleep when care giving it makes you cranky and moody, try to do activity's just simple things like a nice jigsaw or bake a few buns then slowly progress to a little walk if possible or a little drive and jinx has the right idea a trip to the doctors about this could help, also i know it may seem a bit far fetched but dont let her watch tv, play on the computer or do things like that as these let of a special kind of light that keeps the brain active, my fiance had this problem when playing xbox games in a evening he would just become so wide awake until we found out it was to do with the light this technology lets of so maybe instead of watching tv do a puzzle or just have a chat and try to get into a routine like 8.00 tv goes off and hot bedtime drinks are made, 8.30 time for a little chat and talk about anything that may have been in the news, 9.00 upstairs to bed maybe some hot milk to go with it, if you get the idea. good luck xxx
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I'm going thru the same thing, Liz. My Dad keeps getting up all night and snacking, turning on the TV,I have to sleep in the living room. I was giving him ambien for a while, but stopped because it didn't do any good. I also felt the less meds the better,
I eliminated his use of adding caffienated instant coffee to his cocoa. That's his after-dinner vice. We now have instant de-caf and he's not complaining. I still can't sleep. I'm just too wound up, and he always gets up after I get in bed.
I see I'm not the only one dealing with this. Over a year of minimal sleep- you can develop a lot of health problems! My stress level is off the charts.
One positive change I made: We adopted a small dog. He has been such a comfort to both of us, and forces us both to walk. I'm glad he's not allergic! The dog really helps to calm me down, and I see the benefits to my Dad.
Some people reccommend Melatonin, but I stopped using that due to intense dream activity.(nightmares) That is the one side effect I didn't like.
Last night he told me his bed was too hard. We will get a matress topper. I'm hoping that helps. I wish you well and some relief too!
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I am caregiver to my mother in law. She wasn't sleeping when she first came here. We have her on Xanex, Ambien and Riserdal. She now sleeps. Thank the lord. The hospice team had to go through trial and error till they found what worked, but talk to her doctor or health care team and explain the problem they should be able to help you.
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The first thing I would recommend of course is to see her doctor. There are medications that can help, but before you go the pharmaceutical route, there are more natural supplements you can try. Ask her doctor about melatonin. My best friend, who is caregiving for his 83 year old mother with stage 6 Alzheimer's disease found melatonin to be a very good solution with no side effects, since melatonin is a substance that naturally occurs in the body. As we age, our production and use of it can change which can interrupt sleep. If you try that for a couple of weeks and it doesn't work for her, you can try some of the more advanced medications others have recommended like ambien, seroquel, or many others. Your health which is already suffering can only get worse if you don't sleep. Your immune system is taking a beating from lack of sleep!
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Could you get some volunteer help from church or senior center to come and visit with her while you sleep? The Alzheimer's Association has some money that you could get to pay someone to spend some time with her so you could rest. Sleep deprivation is literally a form of torture! Please beg, plead, and ask for help! Would your mom want you to kill yourself? I don't think so and being a caregiver without help would kill anyone. Thanks for all that you are doing!
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Yes, please, get some help so you can get some sleep...I know what lack of sleep does to me; I can't think, I can't talk, and I am crabby! Once you get back into your normal sleep patterns, you will be feel better and be able to help better. Not getting enough sleep is physically dangerous. Peace and best wishes.
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Agree with seeing the doctor and make sure some of the meds aren't screwing with her natural sleep/awake rhythms. My mom is 90 and same way, because she naps frequently during the day and up all night.

When I'm there I make sure she gets up early and then keep her on regular schedule including lots of physical activity. I limit her to short nap early afternoon.

Then we do a walk early eve. We have dinner and maybe a small glass of wine; and then a light snack, protein and maybe a sweet treat about an hour before bedtime. She falls asleep but doesn't stay asleep.

So we introduced a product called zzz-Quil which she takes. I turn the thermostat down to 69 and she sleeps very soundly thru the night.

Maybe some of this will help. Keeping her occupied, busy and active during the day is the only thing that helps my mom.
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In last post I spoke about my mom's sleeplessness. After 4 straight sleepless nights and days (for both of us) I took her to the ER. She ended up on psych floor - was stuck in bipolar mania. (She has a lifelong bipolar history). Anyway, 10 days later she came home with lots of meds but it still took about 3 weeks to get her settled. It's still a problem but not as much. Takes Ativan, lithium, trazadone. Sometimes these meds make her worse! It's a fine line to tippy toe around. Whew!
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