I moved my mom into an ALF in September after being with me for 5 years. I mentally, emotionally and physically couldn’t care for her and her needs with her Parkinson’s. Last month her behavior towards the workers has not been good. She yells and screams in the middle of the night and constantly calls for assistance for the simplest thing. Recently at breakfast in the dining room and she screamed out loud that it was taking too long to serve her. She used her pendant to call the attendant. Once the attendant arrived and tried to explain she would be served soon, my mom pulled her hair. The ALF has emailed me and and called about her behavior. Hospice has sent in a script for Seroquel to help with her agitation. Is there anything else I can do?
Being she's under hospice care, I don't think further medical assessment is going to be approved, but I could be wrong.
Don't allow the ALF to threaten you with kicking her out! Tell THEM to figure out how to make it work with mom since she's under hospice care now. Meals in her room is a good start for now.
GOOD LUCK!
An AL may not be a good fit for Mom with all her health problems. May need Memory Care or a LTC facility.
It is possible that mom needs a stay in a geri-psych facility to get her meds adjusted. Or, as noted above she may need a higher of care than AL is able to provide.
Request mom get another room mate because she deserves to have peace where she lives.
Is it possible for your mom to have a private room? They may ask you pay a bit more.
Often an ALF will insist that any patient who is disruptive has a 1:1 companion to 'supervise for safety". Your mother pays for this, of course. And it may or not be helpful while waiting for Seroquel to take full effect.
It may be that you will need to revoke her hospice enrollment so that she can be admitted to a geriatric psychiatric unit for assessment of behavior and management of it.
SW and nurse at hospice are always overwhelmed, but being politely pushing and asking them what steps you can do to help the process along works very very well.
Also, generous. seasonal gifting to all 3 shifts of staff at the ALF, and something to management as well, can't hurt.