She is not a RN,CNA,HHA. We want to be informed of any medical interventions, decisions etc...we have caught several mistakes in the past with RX's, unreported falls, wounds etc... that we have caught at different places.We also want to speak to the doctors, pharmacists etc...on anything to do with her care. No DNR involved. Why does the caregiver need access to this information? We have also dealt with ID theft through the bank and her SS#-previous caregiver deverted to her account in the past- so we are very weary of giving out any info that is not legally necessary.
How competent is your mother?
Where is your mother living?
How far away do you live from your mother?
The caregiver does not need all of that information. They aren't the ones authorized to use them.
If there was a DNR order, she would want access to that, to give to an emergency responder, but you say that is not the case.
Has she told you why she wants these documents? She may have a legitimate concern that you could satisfy by giving her a list or simple answers.
Now a days, it's not unusual for one's primary doctor or for your local hospital to scan said documents to have on file. That way there won't be any type of misunderstanding on what to do or not to do when the family is in an emotional state.
Have your Mom's credit frozen with all three of the credit bureaus. It's easy to do on-line and the cost is very reasonable [last year I froze my credit and it was $10 for each bureau, it depends on which State your Mom resides, some are free... I froze my credit just to play it safe because of the store credit card hacking that was going on]. That way no one can get new credit cards, buy a car, etc. using your Mom's credit.