Dad died last week in Assisted Living after a lengthy illness. They were married for 67 years and together until the end. Mom (89yo) has always kept her feelings and thoughts on a short leash. The family says it's because she was raised in a household of "strong New Englanders". Dad was the outgoing one and never met a stranger.
A couple days after Dad died, mom started turning her cup as she drank from it. Now she turns her cup in a circle as she makes the cup circle a placemat. Now she's circling her spoon as she circles her bowl (she's on a mechanically softened diet because of some choking issues). She's spending so much time doing all this circling, that she isn't getting much food or drink inside her. Yesterday, she blew her nose and put the tissue up her nose and began circling it there.
A therapist would say that perhaps the circles are just her way of dealing with all the swirling thoughts in her mind (that she won't share with us!).
Have any of you dealt with a sudden onset of repetitive OCD-like behaviors?
Talk to her doctor about this change in mental status.
I think my next step will be to call the hospice that attended to Dad and see if the grief counselor can come talk to Mom. Maybe she'll talk to a stranger because she won't talk to us. She's ALWAYS been someone who doesn't want to burden anyone. :(
And yes, having someone from hospice come to talk to mom is a great idea!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
May God grant you grieving mercies and strength during this difficult time.
I agree with Barb, get a UTI test done just to rule it out.
I am sure that she is heart broken and trying to process her loss. 67 years is a lifetime and not easy to face under perfect conditions. I spin my coffee cup around and around when I am contemplating a serious issue, it helps me to know that life continues to circle and burns some of my physical energy from being distraught. The tissue thing is worrisome.
I pray that it is an organic cause easily treatable and that she finds balance in her new normal.
Just to add, my mother's heightened level of anxiety was the ONLY indication that her cognitive skills had declined (due to an undetected stroke, long story). No amount of reassurance or explaining or "talking it through" helped. Meds did.
Yes, call Hospice and ask that a counselor come and talk with her. Maybe family sitting around and talking about him and the good times would help her cry it out.
Testing for a UTI would not hurt but I think this is has to do with Dad dying.