I mean filth, animal feces ground into the carpet and dried, dirt everywhere. Not to mention unsorted clutter. Mom was always very clean and neat. My sibling moved in and the house has slowly turned into a sewer - there's nothing she can do and she needs the help as she is very feeble, and won't hear any critisism of this child anyway. I live several thousand miles away. When I come to help, I feel so nauseated that I can't eat for days on end. I clean and clean-I'm not very good at it- but cannot catch up, more filth is tracked in, more grease from cooking, nothing ever washed. Cleaners have been hired but they quit in disgust. I think the sibling has a disorder that makes dirt invisible- and thinks I'm a neurotic and am "having a fit" when I (calmly) try to talk about the dirt. What can I do about this situation?
You might call your local area agency on aging to inquire about services your mom may be eligible for.
Remove carpet. Have only easily maintained floors. Someone who doesn't remove poop probably won't remove shoes. Flies will be a big problem. Your mother is living with a person who needs help herself. However, although it doesn't sound like it, you might be biased, so seek the outside help. Ask for police or sheriffs department to make a check. If you know the neighbors ask them to complain to whatever authorities are available. Your sisters denial of the drs findings on your moms illness is really distressful. That's really the worst thing you posted. You have to take action. I know it's a thankless task but necessary. At one time social stigma would have helped you. We are pretty much dependent on government intervention in the times we live in. Put your head down and move forward. Your mom is depending on you and so is your sister.
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