Our caregiver and Mother truely bonded and it brought a calmness to Mom. The caregiver had influence with Mom and it helped to get her to take her medication, be nicer, and actually talk to me as a human being. Anyone else have the same things happen? Our caregiver was trained and held responsible by her employer and I think it made a difference.
When Mom needed a companion, I was more than thrilled at the bond they developed so quickly. When I couldn't be there, I knew mom was in good hands. When mom was low on funds, I paid this lady out of my own pocket. I sat across the table from her when we celebrated my mother's 80th birthday. A few weeks later she was living in the condo with my mother and I'm no longer welcome.
I have had bad experiences with home health care agencies,all had glowing reviews and believable personal recommendations. When and if I have to get someone to help me with my husband, I am scared to death of having this all repeated. I'm sure there are great ones out there but the trick is how to find one.