My mom's caregiver came back after having 3 days for the first time off in 2 months. My mom called me at 10 pm screaming about this woman. I wouldn't get out of bed and go over so she called the police. I am so done with this. How do you get someone into a nursing home that refuses to go? I am not doing this no more. Sh was born with cerebral palsy and now made herself completely disabled. Stays in bed and makes the poor russian lady change her diapers.
It will take time to have this done, but in the end, a better outcome for your mother and for you. You aren't stuck.
The fact she called the police b/c you wouldn't jump up and go over to her house is just one step in the "right" direction. The police have better things to do than chase down elderly people's complaints. Use this as a springboard to getting mom to a better place for her. You aren't going into great depth about this situation, so perhaps I got the wrong "read" on it--but it sounds like you live apart and she leans on you very heavily and you are exhausted.
I imagine your "poor Russian lady" is going to stick around much longer, nobody pays enough for this kind of grief.
I'm very sorry to hear about everything you are going through. Its hard taking care of an elderly parent. I know you are trying hard to hold every thing to together. Like Pam said if you've had enough that you can get a guardianship change. There are options. I would talk to a social worker as well. Take care of yourself.