Recently for dental care which she hasn't had in two years. Help! She has vascular dementia and severe bilateral knee arthritis which makes it painful for her walk. She starts whining the minute she gets out of bed and it is enough to send me through the roof. She does live with me and I mostly just try to encourage her as arguing or rationalizing gets me nowhere. But I really don't know what to do to get her to these appointments that she needs without ordering her and making her cry.
With my parents, I had the opposite problem, they were more than happy to go to a medical appointment... I had at least 30 in one year. I was the one who was whining and ready to cry :P
If I can get a Tylenol in her ahead of time then I'll do so
No one likes doing any of these things but she has had the same care providers for many years with the exception of the neuro which is new and which she doesn't like - she thinks they're trying to make her look foolish with their questions so I don't give her much information as to who where and why
We go to the dentist regularly and I sit with her while she's having her cleaning - at some point she may not cooperate but she hasn't bitten anyone yet
Biggest hassle is ,er ely getting her ready on time to make the appointment and her constant need to use the bathroom so planning enough time to use the potty upon arriving anywhere helps