During my childhood he was physically abusive of my mother and probably still is. Her husband remains emotionally abusive and he spends her money on new cars, motorcycles and all types of toys for himself while he refuses proper care for mom. Last week, after being left alone again for hours on end, she was found face down on a sidewalk several blocks from her home with an arm full of her clothing. Police were contacted - again. For over a year myself and other family members have engaged the county social workers, the police, the fire departments. Each time we finally get help to go into the home her husband manages to convince them they are not needed or welcome. What on earth do we do now to secure her finances for her care and remove her from this evil, selfish, sociopath?
It sounds like this is a marriage of long-standing. Your mother, an intelligent, educated woman, chose to stay in it in spite of abuse. Her choice. And now you are all dealing with the consequences of that choice. It sounds like you have done the logical things to address this -- social workers, police, etc. If you haven't tried APS, I'd give that a shot. But ultimately you may not be able to override the choices your mother made when she was of sound mind.
I am so sorry. Please keep in touch here and let us know if you have some success. We learn from each other.
What would we need to do to get him into court?