My mother has dementia. Where should she really be--in a nursing home or Assisted living?
I been taking care of my mother for 10 yrs her other kids said NO WAY they say they love her, be really? To me that is not love but then again she is hard to live with and deal with on day to day and I understand but still not even to take her in to try. I can't do this anymore really. My mother is at risk to fall and I need my sleep at night when I go sleep she stays up all night walking I don't know what shes doing to many things happen from time to time with her up all alone. She at a lot of time stays up till next morning walking up and down the house she wont sleep and has fell i am up on and off at night so i can hear if she did fall. She wont listen can't remember anyway after 5 min what I have told her. i can't take it anymore I did the best I could gave up my life my friends most every thing to help her she wont listen and don't seem to want to improve thinks says shes doing fine her way! Good god! Where and how do I get her into ether a Assistant living or should she need Nursing care? What would be best?
What can she afford? Will she need Medicaid? Is she on Medicaid now?
Good luck!
The lovely ALF where my daughter is an assistant physical therapist accepts Medicaid from residents who have been private pay a certain length of time. They also have memory care.
The great ALF where my caregivers' support group meets also accepts Medicaid after private-pay for a given period, and also has memory care.
Gayle189, have you asked specifically if your aunt's facility would consider Medicaid from her? Many places that "don't take Medicaid" for new residents do accept it from private pay residents when their money runs out. (And almost everyone's money runs out.)
It is a little harder to find an ALF that accepts Medicaid from new residents, but it is possible.
I wish this weren't so hard. I wish Medicaid paid a realistic amount to ALFs and NHs, so more places would accept it. I wish there were an over-all comprehensive plan for how our society deals with the elderly who need care. But for now, it is what it is, and caregivers have to be very diligent and work very hard to search out all the options.