My mother-in-law has developed a difficult personality. I worry about her cleanliness. I believe she showers once a week, but her hair is disgusting. Now she has bed bugs. I am stressed and don't want her to visit my home or ride in my car. She has the money to have help, and all the siblings are willing to pay monthly for expenses that go over her budgets, but she is unwilling. What do we do?
I wouldn't want her in my car or house either.
Bed bugs are an issue for anyone in contact with her.Ridding her house of them shouldn't be up to her at that point.Bed bugs spread like fleas.It's a sanition issue for all concerned.
I'm constantly amazed at the many caregivers here who can clearly see their loved one's judgement is impaired yet they try to reason with them.
I stopped asking mother's premission to do things for her once her decisions became clouded.
I'd tell her the family has made the decision in her behalf and if she doesn't like it (which she won't) you will call the authorities.
She will hate you but I doubt she wantsher "dirty secret" to become public knowledge.
I agree with Sophe509: Ick!!