Mom left the house to my brother. Not good choice. He is on SS I and food stamps.He Will have $ 700 in his bank account when the bill is due. Payed in half. Almost $2000. Is due in September. The trust can't pay the bill I don't think. It's a housing expence. What am I supposed to do. He doesn't have intellectual disabilities. Really, he should be responsible for himself. He won't even think of moving.
I don't think this is your problem. Let a lawyer take over the trust management duties. If there is not enough money in the trust to cover taxes and insurance and maintenance, and your brother's disability income is not enough to cover those expenses, then your mother simply did not succeed in her intention to take care of him, did she? This is Not Your Fault. Given the nature of your relationship with your brother I think that you are justified in stepping out of the management role.
How did it happen Mother did not provide for him as she intended? What happened with the rest of the estate? Maybe that will provide some clues.
Angel
I do wonder what he'll do when it comes time for painting, roofing, and other maintenance. Keeping a house up is expensive.
I think you're just going to have to decide to step back and let your brother develop some responsibility or make some accommodations.
I DEFINITELY would not dig into your own finances to pay the taxes. Every time you accommodate him, you reinforce the fact that he knows he can get you to bail him out.
Angel
It sounds as though your brother needs for someone to be in charge of his life...and it shouldn't be you. Agreed with paying the lawyer (out of the assets of the trust) to manage it, and to be the one to explain the facts on the ground to your brother.
Barbara, your brother is mentally ill. This is neither his fault nor yours, but it IS a factor in this mess. You (along with any other human being) will have a limited ability to change your brother's mind about things, since he doesn't see reality the way most people do.
For the sake of your mental health, you need to get someone else, preferably a lawyer, to be in charge of your brother's trust.
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