She only has two small bank accounts and her SS, and a very old car. My name is on her bank accounts to help her if need be, do banking. Can they come after what my husband and I have. we live in NJ. She is in good health but 73 years old and we are getting our financials together and can not afford to support her and have the burden of the poor financials my dad and her put themselves in. Thank you Theresa Fischer
Curious why your Mother is living with you? What medical issues does she have? I know many gals who are in their early 70's who still work full-time jobs, mainly because they want to, and the extra money comes in handy.
Even if one's income is social security, there are senior apartments that are geared according to one's income. She could be around people of her own generation, making new friends, having a sense of pride having her own place :)
Nothing wrong with an old car unless there are cobwebs covering it.