My mother has lived in assisted living for 5 yrs. The aides give residents two showers a week but she refuses help. They are very kind but my mother won't comply. I think the only way to solve this is to tell her that as so many residents have fallen in the shower it's now the facility's rule that everyone has assistance with showering. Any suggestions?
If all else fails you can tell her she smells like a grizzly bear and if she doesn't bathe soon the flies will find her. (Just kidding here, but I've smelled some people who stopped bathing and it is not a nice smell.)