She has dementia and I need help with in home care. Your website information is confusing. On one hand it says there is help available, then again it answers my question by saying "the VA does not provide services for "non veteran" spouses" which is totally not related to the question. I believe it would be more beneficial for me to speak with someone over the phone. My daughter and I care for my mother in our home. She is 98 years old. I am having a difficult time getting help for her through Medicare. The state wants me to provide information going back five years, which I don't have. She has been evaluated as nursing home eligible, however I want to take care of her as we always promised. I don't understand why it's so difficult for me. I have seen others get home care help, in home therapy, visiting nurses, music therapy, meals on wheels and any other available services. We are ordinary poor people. My mother's resources are meager, a burial fund of about $7600 (no life insurance). Please help me. Thanks, Roxiann
Veterans' service organizations such as American Legion and VFW provide FREE assistance in advising what your mother might qualify for, will prepare and submit the application for free as well.
Also research your county and state offices to see if they have veterans' agencies which would also offer free help.
These groups can prepare applications for what she might receive. Before you call, make a list of what kind of assistance you need - home care, medical care at the VA, etc.
You might also have to have the assistance of such a service or county organization to help you determine if your father's service connected disability was a factor in his death. If you don't have the sc/d papers, they can help you with that, I believe. You should also bring a copy of his death certificate.
You may have to get additional medical records relating to the sc/d, but ask the staff at the organization you visit to help guide you through the maze.
I've never heard of this - is this through a state or federal agency?
decatur, yes I left a job of 18 years and could have had a nice retirement. They gave me the choice to come back in 1 year to not lose it, but Moms still here all these years later. I sure hope she gets the medicaid waiver plan and the A+A so I can start once and for all, to have some real freedom . I have 3 adult boys and grandchildren that complain how I can never do anything, it hurts all of us. Fortunately, all birthdays and holidays are here because they know I cannot get out usually. IF anyone has more info, great, thanks.
rjc6511, here is the service you can contact and they can tell you where to get help if they cannot help you, its free. All States are different, I am 3 miles from another State Line that gives everything ! They even give children of parent caregivers 18,000 a year to take care of their parent at home.
Google-Elder Resource Benefits Consulting.
We ran into this issue when we looked at PACE for my grandpa. We have been told totally different things by separate people within each agency. Many of these state programs to keep elderly out of nursing homes are relatively new (like within the past 2-3 years) and they are still working out the kinks, especially between agencies.
My guess is that the VA will re-evaluate what your mom's needs are after considering what the Choices program will pay for. So if Choices provides day aides, but your mom still needs night aides, you still have a high expense to income ratio. But that is just my guess after looking at this stuff on-line for the past year and from trying to piece together what we've been told by various people. I might be misunderstanding. However when we asked our geriatric soc. worker at our VA what their policy was she told us flat out, “I don’t really know” so I’m not the only one who’s confused.
Is she on Hospice?. Without a full review of the situation it is not proper for me to be specific, She may be ,depending on state of residence be receiving some assistance with Medicare premiums or Rx plans?
2. The facility must certify ADL's are being administered.There is no requirement on the part of the Veteran/Spouse that the Facility "Must accept"; it does not go to the facility.
3. Once on Medicaid; the benefit , will not be paid into the account