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O dear, Alva Deer, The forum community is offering only 24 hrs. to return and provide more information to new (or not so new) posters? I understand your concerns, but until this full moon passes, can we give the OP some time? (Maybe 10 more minutes, LOL?). Catherine passes muster because she has posted before in July 2019. I could be wrong.
When Ms. Madge (well-loved like you, Alva) brought up the underwear topic, she recommended Lollipop cotton underwear in a larger size for her Mom. Even so, the legs in underwear will ride up.
I find the underwear question perfectly legitimate for all kinds of reasons. The legs get tight, bind and cut, often when in bed too much. A person with dementia can no longer adjust their underwear, even if the leg band is cutting into them.
The suggestions for stretchy boxer type briefs (legs) is a good one. Unless the person is sensitive to fabrics other than 100% cotton.
Wearing loose fitting shorts as underwear may help, no tight leg bands. Or, if no incontinence, just comfy pj bottoms might work.
However, you are right Alva, we need more information. If the Mom is incontinent, underwear will be out and we may need to consult CWillie, who often has the very best techniques recommended by an expert.
There was a time when in memory care, the clients were being left without underwear, sitting on a disposable pad. But that was not working, the client being found sitting sopping wet.
We would all like the OP to return, especially if the question has been answered for her Mom. However, the advice is free, and free from further obligations, imo. 😍
Given that OP has not returned in 24 hours with more information it is just possible that our collective legs are being pulled again, but time will tell.
Is the issue that the tight/well fitting underwear is making it hard to get to the toilet on time? Many struggle with that. I have.
After children, I said goodbye to jeans with a zipper & hello to elastic waisted pants!
I would trial those stretchy net boxer style briefs (our pharmacy sells in the incontinence product isle). Soooo stretchy & easier to adjust. They are marketed as disposable but can be washed many times before they get a bit tatty looking. Note: they are see through!
Sorry, but the logical thing to say it get her a bigger size. But then as said, is it her that says her underwewr is too tight and it really isn't.
Me personally wear a Genie bra. Its like a sports bra but with cups. I wear Hanes briefs. There is elastic in the waist but not the legs. There are panties that are like boxers.
Catherine, as noted, size is a factor, but so is the material. Some materials are more stretchable and more comfortable.
Could you elaborate on the issue? Have you tried larger sizes? Different manufacturers? I've found that women's underwear isn't always to size. In a package of perhaps a dozen underpants, one was clearly not the same size.
If elastic around the legs of underpants is too tight, the easiest way is to just cut a slit in the elastic, or in different areas around the leg openings.
Made offshore, perhaps in China, quality control doesn't seem to be a high priority.
I've also found that elastic ravels, sometimes w/I a year.
Are you saying that your mother's underwear is too tight but that it is not a result of gaining weight? Or are you saying your Mother complains of her underwear "feeling" too tight? Your question needs a bit more elaboration.
catherine, we need more information. Such as, does your mother refuse to try a larger size of underwear? Is it her bra? If so, could she wear an undershirt instead, much more comfortable. One can buy men's v-neck t-shirts which work well. I wear those, keeps me warmer on these chilly days under my clothing.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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The forum community is offering only 24 hrs. to return and provide more information to new (or not so new) posters? I understand your concerns, but until this full moon passes, can we give the OP some time? (Maybe 10 more minutes, LOL?).
Catherine passes muster because she has posted before in July 2019. I could be wrong.
When Ms. Madge (well-loved like you, Alva) brought up the underwear topic, she recommended Lollipop cotton underwear in a larger size for her Mom.
Even so, the legs in underwear will ride up.
I find the underwear question perfectly legitimate for all kinds of reasons.
The legs get tight, bind and cut, often when in bed too much. A person with dementia can no longer adjust their underwear, even if the leg band is cutting into them.
The suggestions for stretchy boxer type briefs (legs) is a good one. Unless the person is sensitive to fabrics other than 100% cotton.
Wearing loose fitting shorts as underwear may help, no tight leg bands. Or, if no incontinence, just comfy pj bottoms might work.
However, you are right Alva, we need more information. If the Mom is incontinent, underwear will be out and we may need to consult CWillie, who often has the very best techniques recommended by an expert.
There was a time when in memory care, the clients were being left without underwear, sitting on a disposable pad. But that was not working, the client being found sitting sopping wet.
We would all like the OP to return, especially if the question has been answered for her Mom. However, the advice is free, and free from further obligations, imo. 😍
After children, I said goodbye to jeans with a zipper & hello to elastic waisted pants!
I would trial those stretchy net boxer style briefs (our pharmacy sells in the incontinence product isle). Soooo stretchy & easier to adjust. They are marketed as disposable but can be washed many times before they get a bit tatty looking. Note: they are see through!
Me personally wear a Genie bra. Its like a sports bra but with cups. I wear Hanes briefs. There is elastic in the waist but not the legs. There are panties that are like boxers.
Could you elaborate on the issue? Have you tried larger sizes? Different manufacturers? I've found that women's underwear isn't always to size. In a package of perhaps a dozen underpants, one was clearly not the same size.
If elastic around the legs of underpants is too tight, the easiest way is to just cut a slit in the elastic, or in different areas around the leg openings.
Made offshore, perhaps in China, quality control doesn't seem to be a high priority.
I've also found that elastic ravels, sometimes w/I a year.
Maybe the underwear is just cheaply made?
Being 'well endowed' is NOT A BLESSING!!!
Maybe your mom is wearing incontinence briefs, which must be fairly snug to work.
I agree with Alva--we need more info on this.
Your question needs a bit more elaboration.