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The lady I caregive for says the same thing... of course it is her home and has been for 50+ years..... I just tell her that we have to stay here for awhile and some really nice people (she never asks who) has let her and her husband stay at this house for awhile..... she accepts that answer, but is usually not happy about it.... but settles down after awhile.... she comments that things in the house are JUST LIKE at her house.....sometimes I tell her that the nice people let us move her stuff in so she would feel more at home....I do not consider it not being truthful with her, just trying to make her less anxious..... this is very common with folks with Alz/dementia.... just have to use your imagination and be reassuring.... good luck...
And I'll bet at her "real home" MIL is not confused, infirm, or disabled.
It is surprisingly common for persons with dementia to want to "go home" even if they are at home. When my husband first did this I spent a lot of effort trying to convince him that he was home. I reminded him of the origins of furniture and pictures. ("We bought this together in that antique store we like on the way to the apple orchard.) I told him stories of our moving in, decades ago. I showed him family albums on the shelf. I can tell you this about that approach: It doesn't work.
I didn't know it then, but I quickly learned: it is not productive to reason with people who are losing their ability to reason. Logic does not convince them or change their minds.
It is more helpful to be sympathetic and reassuring. "I'm so sorry we can't go to your other house today. At least this is a very nice place to stay while we are waiting. Let's go into the kitchen and see if there are any cookies. Would you like tea?" If they need a reason why you can't go today, tell them something plausible and temporary, like the street in front is torn up for laying new pipes, or you can't drive you car until you get the brakes looked at, or the bug fumigators were there today.
If MIL gives a reason she needs to get to her other house today, solve the reason. "Oh, I'm so sorry we can't go and look at your mother's wedding album today. But there is a nice wedding album here, too. Let's look at it together."
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It is surprisingly common for persons with dementia to want to "go home" even if they are at home. When my husband first did this I spent a lot of effort trying to convince him that he was home. I reminded him of the origins of furniture and pictures. ("We bought this together in that antique store we like on the way to the apple orchard.) I told him stories of our moving in, decades ago. I showed him family albums on the shelf. I can tell you this about that approach: It doesn't work.
I didn't know it then, but I quickly learned: it is not productive to reason with people who are losing their ability to reason. Logic does not convince them or change their minds.
It is more helpful to be sympathetic and reassuring. "I'm so sorry we can't go to your other house today. At least this is a very nice place to stay while we are waiting. Let's go into the kitchen and see if there are any cookies. Would you like tea?" If they need a reason why you can't go today, tell them something plausible and temporary, like the street in front is torn up for laying new pipes, or you can't drive you car until you get the brakes looked at, or the bug fumigators were there today.
If MIL gives a reason she needs to get to her other house today, solve the reason. "Oh, I'm so sorry we can't go and look at your mother's wedding album today. But there is a nice wedding album here, too. Let's look at it together."